• What is "The Adoption Option"?
• The myths about adoption
• The reality of adoption
• The adoption industry:
  • Consumer demand
  • The Motive is Money
  • Reproductive exploitation?
  • Reproductive "predators"?
  • Coercion: How they do it
  • Open adoption: how they knew it would work
  • Adoption: Comparing America and Australia
• Considering "open adoption"?
• What Mothers Have to Say

• Don't be scared!
• Confronting the Myths of Single Parenting
• The Research is In: Young Motherhood is not a Crisis!
• Getting the Resouces You Need
• A Support Forum for Young Moms
• Your story of success
• Your rights as a mother
• Confronting the Myths of Single Parenting

• Bonding Before Birth
• "A Special Message to Baby's Grandma"
• What Adoptees Say about Adoption

What is "The Adoption Option"?

As a young expectant parent today in the U.S. or Canada, you may encounter pressure from the "adoption industry": facilitators, agencies, adoption lawyers, social workers, and couples who want your baby. Agencies have customers waiting for babies - there are an estimated 40 couples wanting to adopt

Adoption is where you legally surrender ALL your parental rights to another person or people. It is NOT co-parenting, and even in open adoption, you have no legal right to see your baby. In NO state or province are open adoption agreements legally enforcable if the adopters choose to move to another state or province. This is because once you sign those papers, you are a legal stranger to your child, and your child's new "parents" have the right to keep any stranger they want away from "their" child.

Adoption is NOT the "loving option" that the adoption industry wants you to believe it is.  Adoption puts money in the hands of lawyers, agencies, and facilitators, at the lifelong expense of you and your baby. Older couples with two incomes can afford the fees and expenses that agencies and facilitators charge.

Older infertile couples who may have waited too long to have babies or may have had STD's want children. They feel that they "have earned it." At the same time, governments in North America feel that young mothers don't deserve welfare. Thus, to keep down welfare expenses, and to feed customer demand, governments fund and promote adoption.

And what do adoptees think of adoption? Read a selection of articles by adoptees who are speaking out about what it is like for them to have been adopted.

"I would rather have been raised in a car by my birthmother than have been adopted."  - Jill, an adult who was adopted as an infant.

In the fact of overwhelming pressure - often from their own parents - to surrender ("place") their babies, many young parents are still keeping and raising their children.

If you can keep your baby, no matter what your financial circumstances, your child will be grateful to you. 

Who is the best parent for your child?  YOU PROBABLY ARE! 

 

"Millions of women worldwide struggle with *the birthmother syndrome* in secrecy -  hurting themselves, their child, and those close to them when they choose adoption.  Examine your options thoroughly before choosing adoption. Your child has a whole set of biological roots so please ask yourself questions...who can help me and my baby?  Get counselling and be flexible to ideas to keep your baby with in the family." - Robin Westbrook, a reunited natural mother who, incarcarated by her parents in a maternity "home," lost two babies to the adoption industry.